"Materials are truly important in the moment they become a language that is owned by the children and not just a technique that has to be learned or used in only one way. Materials should become languages to give voice to children's thoughts, mental images, and sense of possibility about entering into relationships with the other children. Through materials, children have a chance to collaborate, cooperate, and exchange knowledge with each other" (Bambini, pg. 64)
The Rope Bin was inspired by two events. The first being Sebastien loves when I wrap gifts and this is because the bin full of wrapping accessories, bows, ribbon, string, tissue paper, etc. is left open for him to explore while I quickly try and wrap a gift. He will pull out, drag about, and swing around any of the ribbon, yarn, or string that is in there. During our most recent gift wrapping session he pulled out a long piece of purple rope ribbon and began dragging it around the house and putting it in his boat as well as other containers. I decided to let it say out of the bin to just see what he would do with it. Well, it became a popular item which tipped me off that these types of materials might take over the discovery bin after we move on from the balls. The second inspiration came from watching Sebastien pull around his caterpillar on a string. He loved having it follow him around and he was so happy to look back and see that it was there.
I scoured the house for any rope/ribbon like material to add to the bin. I also bought some climbing rope of different sizes and lengths. Within in the bin there were also a few balls of yarn. I also made sure there were some short, long, and every length in between items in the bin. In the end it is full of things to pull, drag, wrap, swing, shake, and bite.
Ready to move on from painting for a little bit, I was excited to introduce clay to the children. I presented the clay in one large twenty-five pound block on the floor. I expected the size and three dimensional shape to attract the children to this strange object so I opted to keep the it in a large block and not break it into small sections. I expected the children to pinch, poke, pat, taste, scratch, grab, try to push and dig into the clay. I also had hoped they would bring objects over to the clay to see how the clay would respond to an object being pushed into it.
I like introducing clay to children before the traditional playdough because playdough is very easy to mold and clay needs to be worked a bit more. However, the easily moldable playdough is not as responsive to sculpting and creating something that can be structurally sound. Playdough crumbles easily when dry and does not show intricate finger markings or lines made to create details on a sculpture. Since clay is not as easy to mold if it is introduced after playdough children sometimes get frustrated that the clay doesn't mold as easily and therefore continue to prefer playdough even though playdough is not as conducive to expressing ideas and languages when children are older. Clay is also a medium that, as children grow into adults, can still be used as a creative medium.
Another fun day of painting. Xavier joined us on this particular Friday as well as Kaia's dad, Erik. My elusive painter Kaia again skirted the edges and found her mother's lap and the water bottle comforting as she watched Sebastien, Xavier, and Bryce paint. Her little feet (pictured below) managed to show the paint she acquired as she walked by the painting.
Sebastien, Xavier, and Bryce continue their exploration of painting by using techniques that they have practiced in the past. Bryce gets his feet and legs into motion as he tries to maneuver around a tempera cake. He also gets musical with the painting containers.
Xavier continues his purposeful marks on the canvas. He really concentrates on getting the paint on the canvas and brush even with a lot of activity around him, he is really focused.
Sebastien practices his stacking of the containers and tempera cakes as he did the week before.
As an educator "sharing" is a word that makes me cringe when referenced to young children. As a parent, I want my son to be generous, kind, respectful of others and respected by others. I want adults and children to see his intentions as honorable and from a thoughtful place and yes, to someday to have the ability to share. Not share in the traditional sense of giving up something to another but share his enthusiasm, experiences, and curiosity about the world and then negotiate and problem solve when conflicts arise. For a young child sharing is probably the hardest thing to do when it is imposed on them because another child wants something they have. However, when sharing is on the child's terms he/she is more than willing to offer an item.
Zadie offers Xavier the paint brush she is using.
Zadie offers a ball to Max & Xavier
Kaia offers a container to her mom while Sebastien wants his papa to taste a container.
These photos illustrate a very young child's desire to share their experiences and explorations with another person. This is the beginning of developing the ability to share. As parents, facilitating, modeling, and reciprocating sharing with our own child is the best way to help them to naturally want to share as they grow older. Yet, society expects parents to MAKE their children share.
Sharing as a concept that is difficult even for some adults. There are two definitions of sharing. The first is togiveaportionof(something)toanotherorothers.In most situations, a child is playing with a toy and another child indicates that they want the toy so the parent says something like "share your toys" and expects the child to do so. How can one child give a portion of the toy to another child? They can't. The child has to GIVE UP the toy they are using to the other child.
How often as adults do we GIVE UP something to another adult while in the midst of using it. Take for example, I'm writing my shopping list and my husband comes in and wants the pen I'm using. I ask him to wait until I'm done (otherwise I'll completely forget what we need). He huffs and puffs and insists he needs that pen. I can't break the pen in half so we can both use it. I can offer another pen which he may or may not take. Just then an older, wiser and bigger adult walks in and insists that I give my pen to my husband but I am still in in the midst of a thought. Do they then take the pen out of my hand and give it to my husband? If we witnessed this situation we see how disrespectful the older, wiser, bigger adult is being.
This is why in most situations children can't share a toy, it's just not possible. A child who is using a toy is in the midst of learning, exploring, discovering and is interrupted when sharing occurs. When we ask children to share we are not honoring their ideas and thoughts in the moment with that particular item. Now children can take turns, offer to swap for a different toy, or find a similar toy with the help of a more capable adult but very rarely can young children share. Sharing food is more likely to happen as there is usually more than one of the same item. Lately, we've all eaten the mushy cheerio our child has offered to share with us.
Now let's examine the second definition of sharing -touse,occupy, orenjoy(something)jointlywithanotherorothers. Now this thought is great when children begin to actually move into cooperative play and that happens usually between two and three years of age. Yet, the child-initiated sharing in the photos above is this kind of sharing. The sharing that exudes warmth and tenderness, excitement and joy. If we begin to look at children as small citizens with rights that are the same as ours then sharing becomes a term that no longer defines their behavior but one that limits it. I would have loved to have heard the mother at the playground say "I see you're using the truck and that little boy came over and he wants to use it, can we see if he would like a different toy?" Instead I hear "you need to learn to share" while making the child give up the toy.
One thing studying the Reggio Approach has taught me is that respecting young children leads to respectful young children. One thing parenting has taught me is that it takes mindful and continual practice to respect a child who communicates not yet in words but in sounds, actions, and sometimes tears.
Watch as Zadie shares with Max's mom a few balls from the ball bin. Pay close attention to Max as he watches Zadie and then offers her back one of the balls that his mom rolls near him. It is subtle but profound in his intention, it is as if he was saying "Mom, Zadie was using that ball". Now Zadie doesn't see his offering but the intention is in the spirit of sharing.